Escape Stories

June 2004 Edition

 

Escape Stories: Don't Be Afraid )
Escape Club Newsletter June 2004
in this issue
  • Don't Be Afraid!
  • Create Your Escape
  • Work on Your Escape
  • Inspire Your Escape
  • Support Your Escape
  • The Escape Club

  • Hello!

    A summery greeting to you from London! How have you been? How are your summer escape plans moving along?

    Last month we explored trusting the universe and living fear-lessly. How are you doing with this? What successes have you had and what obstacles have you come across?

    We are continuing on that same path this month. Featured this month is an amazing woman named Helena Denison. I hope the article (longer than usual) will transfer as much of her energy and spirit to you as she did to me during our interview a few months ago! What really struck me was her go- getter attitude, which I think is well-portrayed in one of her pieces of advice: "never let your perceived limitations hold you back."

    Food for thought for the month: What perceived limitations do you have - and how are you allowing them to hold you back?

    To a continued summer of fear-less exploration,


    PS We're growing fast, and very much appreciate it when you forward this newsletter to anyone you feel could use a bit of escape in their lives!

     

    Don't Be Afraid!
    It was the height of spring when I had the opportunity to meet up with the vibrant Helena Denison. From never having worked and not having a CV and being widowed at 30 with two small children, she has come a long way to finally making a business out of her childhood passion and lifetime hobby, gardening.

    How would you describe yourself? Who is Helena?
    I'm the designer/owner/chief bottle washer of small growing garden company - Honey's Garden Design and Construction. We create gardens that are very specific to the people we are working with.

    I love gardening and want to give people gardens they really want to be in; something they can truly enjoy, relax in and that is easy to keep.

    What are you working on now?
    It's the busiest time of the year for us; it usually hits chaos at Easter time. It starts to be sunny, and people look at their gardens and realize they need attention. A lot of people want instant transformation, not realising that the work should have been started in winter!

    At the moment I'm personally working on a number of designs and also about 50 projects from mending fences to major restoration. Our projects range from a few pounds for cutting a lawn to £200,000 plus and everything in between.

    To put it in context, I started this business because I love being outside and getting my hands dirty, but right now, I'm office bound to get on top of the mass of enquiries. Meanwhile, my team of guys is busy doing the construction work.

    As a kid - what did you want to be when you grew up? What was work for you?
    I had no concept of paid work. My mother didn't work, and it was not expected that we would have to work for our living. Our role was mapped out as wife and mother, the supporting act for an industrious husband. My father ran a successful clay mining company of 250 employees that belonged to my mother and my aunt. He was a brilliant engineer and had been landed in this role at the age of 24 when my grandfather died.

    So my model of 'work' was somewhat ambiguous I think because my parents had distinct 'home' versus 'business' roles. I had no clear idea of what I wanted to be when I grew up except that it must involve something creative. It was the 60s and fashion was a big part of our lives and so my first preference was to train as a fashion designer.

    However, as a small child, I was turned out to play in the garden and I loved being there. I was given a small area in which I could plant anything I liked, and in winter I made mud pies and decorated them with bright red japonica flowers. My aunt, who lived with us, was a great plantswoman, and the garden was full of rare and beautiful flowers, seed heads, trees, shrubs and vegetables. I knew their names, what was edible, and what I was allowed to pick.

    What has been your journey to what you are doing now?
    Well it has been a varied past. I never worked until I was 30. I was a happy housewife and didn't even know what a CV was until I was widowed and had to find paid work. In 1979, my husband was killed in action in Rhodesia, where we had lived very happily for four years. I moved back to England with two small children and had to live with my parents in Cornwall, because I had no money and at that point no pension.

    I made an important decision at this time. It was that although I was widowed, we were not going to compromise the standard of living we had grown accustomed to. Everything I have done since has been prompted by this decision and I am proud of what I have achieved.

    Because I was not conditioned to see work as a chore, I have a strong need to enjoy what I am doing. Having trained as a fashion designer in the late 60s, my first job was designing the first coloured wetsuits for the then new sport of windsurfing.

    I worked with UK's leading company in this area for 18 months until my pension came through from Zimbabwe. There were a number of things I didn't enjoy about working for someone rather than for myself. For instance, I don't take orders easily and have a strong mind if I think that what I am being asked to do is not going to work. So, in 1981, I was persuaded to start up my own production company by a local factory manager. Being recently widowed, I was vulnerable and the partnership was a disaster. I persisted for four years but in the end liquidated the company.

    However, this experience had taught me a lot about business, I was asked to join a telemarketing company and rose quickly from being on the phones to project management. One day, bored with work I could do easily, I sent a silent prayer upwards: "Please God show me what is the next vital step I need to take in my life, and make it so clear that even I in my most stupid mode couldn't fail to see what it is you want me to do next". Twenty minutes later I had a phone call from a headhunter. A client had recommended me for a role to start up a telemarketing organisation for a big US conglomerate. I took it.

    The business grew from nothing to 90 employees in the first six months and we were in profit by our 11th month, which was way before the initial plan. Within a year we ranked second to BT (British Telecom) and were perceived as serious market players. Unfortunately our mother company had made big losses in Europe and a decision was made in the US to close all European operations. I was determined that no one I employed was going to suffer from this set back and so I spent the next month making sure all my people got placed in good jobs and seeing that all our client relationships were properly managed.

    Seeing an opportunity, I contacted all our clients and told them in advance what was happening and guaranteed that I would manage their projects or place them with other agencies to ensure continuity and success. As a result I was offered five roles in client companies. I answered them all the same way: "Thank you. I am very grateful and I think you would get more out of me if I worked with you rather than for you".

    I decided to become a telemarketing consultant. Call centres were now the big thing, and I worked with anything from new start-ups to strategic development work consulting at a director level in top companies.

    In the early 1990s, I met someone at a party doing a Masters in Change Agency at the University of Surrey, and immediately knew that was my next step forward. I qualified in the year 2000 as an MSc in Change Agent Skills and Strategies. It was my first degree and immensely difficult, but the most rewarding I had ever achieved.

    I worked in change consulting until just before 9/11 when I sensed that the market was beginning to look lean. Clients were making budget cuts and big consultancies were jumping on the personal development bandwagon. I decided that a recession was starting and 9/11 made the market even more difficult. I could afford to take some time to consider my position, so for about six months I did very little paid work.

    My adopted daughter had just finished her RHS (Royal Horticultural Society) Certificate. It was early summer and I told her that we were going to clean up people's gardens in the local area to earn some money. I designed a leaflet and we started door dropping. Within two hours we had had twenty calls and I realized there was a ready market for this service.

    So we gardened all summer. In the autumn, my daughter no longer wanted to continue, but I decided this was going to be a serious business. In October, I did my first garden design. A client wanted a wildlife garden and part of this included paving around a pond. I decided to subcontract this work, and thus met Gareth, my future business partner. I quickly realized that I needed to employ my own workmen and over the next year built up a small team who are still with me now. The company has evolved from garden maintenance to garden design and construction.

    Inevitably, having a background in design I was never going to be content with simply digging over gardens. The company's natural evolution is underpinned with a strong business message. We love gardens; we are passionate about creating for you the garden of your dreams. And a client recently wrote exactly this: "Thank you for creating the garden of my dreams".

    What has worked in this business? I love talking to people. I love colour and structure. I spend time with clients working out what style is the closest fit for them and what colours and designs will bring out the ideas they cannot necessarily express for themselves. I look at their house, the pictures they choose, their clothes, their personality, and that is enough for me to put together a design that's in integrity with who they are as people.

    What voices have you had along the way?
    I believe that whatever happens I am looked after and that I'll manage. I would say I am spiritual rather than religious in the traditional sense. Deepak Chopra says that one should "commune with nature daily" and I believe in this as a guiding principle. I talk with my god daily and say thank you each evening for specific things that have happened during the day that bring me joy or make life easier and sometimes I ask for particular things such as more work, great clients, profitable projects or new creative ideas. I am always answered.

    How are you feeling now? How do you see the future?
    I'm peaceful and optimistic. I feel as if I have arrived in the place I was always meant to be. My only remaining ambition is to be invited to design a garden at Chelsea. And I would like to be remembered as a wonderful plantswoman. I'd love people to say: "Wow, what a beautiful garden". "Yes, it's an early Helena Dennison".

    What advice would you give to other people in similar situations as you were in?
    · Never let your perceived limitations hold you back. Chance your arm, take a risk and go for it.
    · Get passionate about something and turn it into your work.
    · Remember to do the ground work; plan it, fuel it with passion, be flexible enough to pull it apart every so often and look at what works and what doesn't and take it forward from there.
    · Be humble enough to ask for help and guidance, both from your spiritual center and from those who work with you.

    Helena Dennison runs Honey's Garden Design and Construction, and can be contacted on +44 (0)208 3576 966 or +44 (0)7956 110 188.

     

    Create Your Escape

    Create Your Own Escape!
    Two separate workshops:
    September 18-19 and November 6-7, 2004
    Central London

    Are you stuck in a rut - and you just want to get out - now? You are boggled down by all the options and choices and potential consequences of the decisions you could make - and just need time and space to sort it all out?

    Join us for this unique weekend workshop to explore real possibilities, define where you really want to go and decide on your next steps on how to get there.

     

    Work on Your Escape
    Have you made a commitment to start your escape, and then something always happens? Get to work on your escape - get some support... Here are several possibilities to choose from:

    One-to-One Telephone Coaching
    With clients in 6 countries and 4 continents, we are able to cater to pretty much anybody who wants somebody to help you define what it is you want to work towards, to help you see your limitations when you can't, to help you get past any limitations you have and to support you on your way to your goal.

    "I found the experience working with you very positive and encouraging. Having someone to to talk to about your ideas and ambitions is a real treat, and particularly useful is getting help turning vague aspirations into practical to-do lists for tomorrow." - Heloise Buckland, Sustainability Consultant

    To find out more about coaching itself and/or to book a no-obligation free consultation session, email coach@escape-club.org

    Full and Half-Day Weekend Workshops
    In addition to the Escape Club specific workshops, we run other career-related workshops (from figuring out how to make a difference and a living to how to excel at interviews and CV writing) in London and have access to information about workshops in other cities and countries as well.

    To find out more, email workshops@escape-club.org.

     

    Inspire Your Escape
    Time to Think by Nancy Kline
    "After I escaped my former life, this was one of the books which has made a subtle but lasting impact in my life, or at least I sincerely hope it has. Nancy's book was written for business in many ways, yet it is also a book which helped me become a better listener. Her background is having been to Quaker schools in America as a child, through to working and running one later in life. She has a deep understanding of listening that in my experience Quakers are very good at, you will never be interrupted. What she argues is that good listening creates a space within which you can think well too, it improves the quality of your thinking. From the child to the adult, we all need thinking time. What strikes me too is that it can be very hard in life to get thinking time depending on how we have designed our lives. My life is the richer for having made my escape. I know a freedom in my soul and I have some time to think."
    --Bridie Ashrowan, Scotland (www.liberatelife. com)

    To buy this book...

    Sticky Wisdom by Dave Allan and Matt Kingdom
    "I love the creative zone: endless horizons and possibilities. Sticky Wisdom is a book from the leading creativity consultancy ?What If! which guides you through the tools and techniques they have developed over many years. And they're not afraid to give it all away, even including designs for their 1, 2 and 3 day workshops making it easy to try out the tools on your colleagues or friends.

    First stage is Freshness, with a series of new spins on old lateral thinking exercises to generate heaps of ideas. Next, it's Greenhousing, how to keep your vulnerable new creations nurtured in an often risk and creativity avoiding world. The third stage is about Realness and taking the first steps into action.

    Finally there's help on generating Momentum, that passion, alignment and unreasonable urgency as an new idea flourishes. There are also chapters on the types of communication and courage that creative teams have, and how to grow them. A really easy-reading book, which is unashamedly excited by life."
    --Daniel Start, Wales (www.wild- fire.info)

    To Buy This Book...

    If you have a book that has inspired you and that you want to share with the Escape community - let me know about it on satu@escape-club.org

     

    Support Your Escape

    Here are a few initiatives where you can also meet inspiring people making the most of their lives:

    Pioneers of Change
    Pioneers of Change is an emerging global learning community of committed, young people in their 20's and early 30's, from diverse cultural, social, and professional backgrounds.
    "We first came together when a common experience was voiced and shared among peers: an experience of wanting to contribute to a purpose higher than self, yet facing internal and external constraints in doing so, and of, in our day to day life and work, feeling pressured to compromise our personal values and beliefs."
    Check them out on www.pionee rsofchange.net

    Space Plc
    You're convinced that ideas of work and success need re-inventing. and you've got a niggling feeling about the state of the world. but where to go, what to do?
    Check out what these guys are up to on www.spaceplc.com

     

    The Escape Club

    The Escape Club was born from seeing many of our friends being unhappy or frustrated with their working lives and us realising that there were many ways we could help them, others and ourselves to get on a path of truly enjoying what we do.

    It is a collection of ideas, resources, support and a community of like-minded people for those of you, who are contemplating making a radical change in their working lives, but also for those of you, who are not quite sure where it is you want to go or how to get there.

    Escape Stories, the Escape Club newsletter, is published the last Thursday of every month. It is edited by Satu Kreula, a professional coach and facilitator, and the co-founder of the Escape Club.

     

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